How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com
 
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How Do I Keep Stress From Making Me Feel So Bad?

Most of us think that we’re at the mercy of our stress. Stress dooms you to be sick and tired—and could even kill you before your time

Luckily, that doesn’t have to be true.

In fact, stress can make you healthier and happier. All thanks to Stress Paradox #2—Stress can be Harmful or Helpful—you choose which one.

Amazingly, stress can have both effects—good or bad—it just depends on which one you believe.

You can’t always get rid of the stress in your life. But, don’t worry. You can use the How to Make Stress Your Superpower series to get great at stress.

DIY your stress with this series, or you can get help from me 1-on-1.

Whichever option you choose, you can finally master stress.


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Stress is bad news. It makes you sick, tired, and can even kill you. BUT, What if there was an alternate reality, where stress could be good for you--great even? Good news--That reality already exists! To tap into its power, you need to learn Stress Paradox #2.

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How to Make Stress Your Superpower

So last episode we talked about Stress Paradox #1.

You don’t need to get rid of all your stress if you understand Stress Paradox #1— A meaningful life is a stressful life. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

Now we're onto Stress Paradox #2. Now pay close attention to this.

This episode's info can even save your life.

Stress Can Be Deadly

Now on to Stress Paradox #2.

I know what you're thinking…

“Okay, great, Treva. Stress brings meaning. But what about all that news that stress will make us tired, sick, or even kill us?

Well, if you think this, you're right.

I saw an article just this week that said that workplace stress was so bad that it causes 120,000 deaths every year.

That means it kills more people than diabetes or kidney disease.

Stress Paradox #2

But, before you get all bummed out, remember there's a Stress Paradox #2.

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

And, Stress Paradox #2 says, “Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one.”

You see, what makes people sick or even kills them, isn't the stress. Remember, stress equals meaning. 

What's dangerous is the combination of stress plus believing that stress is harmful.

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. What’s dangerous is stress plus the belief that it’s harmful. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

Stress is Harmful!

Don't believe me?

Well, 30,000 adults were asked, "How much stress did you have last year?” and “Do you believe stress is harmful to your health?”

Then the researchers waited… and they waited…. and they waited.

Then, eight years later they checked to see who had died.

And, people who had high stress—they increased their risk of dying by 43%. No surprise there.

BUT, that was only for people who thought stress was harmful.

 
Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is harmful are at increased risk of dying, but only if they believe stress is harmful. You can believe it’s helpful too. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com
 

Wait, Stress is Helpful Too?

You see, some people didn't get the memo. They thought stress was helpful!

And, those starry-eyed dreamers, they had the lowest risk of death of all— even compared to those who had super low stress.

 
Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is helpful have healthier and happier lives. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com
 

Lots of Awesome Results

Not only did those crazy people who believe stress is helpful have less chance of death:

  • They also had less depression.

  • They were more satisfied with their lives.

  • They had more energy.

  • They had fewer health problems.

  • They were happier and more productive.

  • They saw circumstances as challenging, not overwhelming.

  • They were more confident in their coping skills.

  • And, they were better able to find meaning in hard stuff.

That's a lot of helpfulness!

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is helpful have healthier and happier lives. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

Believing It’s Helpful works

I told my teenage daughter about this study and she said, “Maybe those people just didn't have a lot of stress.

That's what everyone figured, but it just wasn't true. 


The people who thought stress was good—they did actually have stressful lives.

It turns out believing stress is helpful works whether you have a lot or a little of it.

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is helpful have healthier and happier lives even if they have a lot or a little stress. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

Two Different Possibilities

So, basically you can believe two different things about stress.

Stress is harmful, or stress is helpful. And, it turns out both of them are true.

Alicia Crumb PhD, a well-known researcher on mindset, explains what's happening here.

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. You get the effect you expect. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People who believe stress is helpful have healthier and happier lives. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

She says, “When two outcomes are possible, a person's expectations influence which outcome is more likely. So, the effect you expect is the effect you get.

This is a case where what you believe becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Those who believe stress is helpful, cope with it.

And then, good things happen.

Those who believe stress is bad— they avoid it. They might escape or distract themselves from stress instead of just dealing with it.

Then, bad things happen.

Life-Saving Info Ahead

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is harmful may die early. So, choose to believe stress is helpful for a healthier, longer life. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

Now here comes that lifesaving info that I promised. It's time for you to sit up and really pay attention.

Remember that eight year study where the researchers waited around to see who died?

Well, they estimated that over those eight years, 182,000 people may have died prematurely—just because they believed stress was harmful.

 
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You don’t have to be one of them!

Watch What You Say

A while ago, a friend was going through a really tough time adjusting to her new job.

Watch what you say about stress. Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is helpful have healthier and happier lives. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

And she said to me, “Treva, my job is killing me!”

Well, I scolded her, “Don't ever say that again!

You're not a police officer, a firefighter or a soldier. Your job is not worth dying for. Watch what you say.

Then of course, I calmed down.

And, I told her that she could believe her stress was helpful instead— and not end up dead in the process.

Secret Stress Knowledge

So what secret knowledge of stress did I share with my friend?

How do you actually believe that stress is good for you, and then make it your super power?

Tune into the next episode to find out how.

Stress can be helpful or harmful—you choose which one. People who believe stress is helpful have healthier and happier lives. | How to Make Stress Your Superpower: Stress Paradox #2 | www.realhealthyhabits.com

What to Do Next

Want to DIY Getting Better at Stress?

If you need a little help with reframing your stress and getting good at it, check out my video/ blog post series. Next week, I’ll teach you what stress really is, so you can learn How to Make Stress Your Superpower.

Want Real Results Now?

If you’re done with DIY and want to fix your health and stress once-and-for-all, here’s what you should do:

  1. Contact me to SCHEDULE your free discovery call today.

  2. We’ll map out your customized health and stress habit plan together.

  3. Then, we’ll get started--finally succeeding one habit at a time.

With the Real Healthy Habits 6-week jumpstart program, your definition of health and stress management success can finally be a reality.

 Until next time,

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Kudos to Kelly McGonigal, PhD

I want to give a big shout out and a high five to Kelly McGonigal, PhD, the author of The Upside of Stress: Why Stress is Good for You and How to Get Good at It.  

I read stacks and stacks of books on stress trying to figure out what to do about it. Kelly’s book was the only book that gave me hope and a true mindset shift that stress could be my superpower.  

I hope that I’ve done (so many of) her ideas justice.

 
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I discovered that the answer to all these questions is simply--Your Brain. 

I help frustrated people end their health and weight loss struggles by understanding their brain and then working with it—instead of against it. Then, I teach them how to put their personalized health habits on autopilot for results that last.

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